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Tuesday, March 13, 2012
So, Which Dog Is Yours?
How is it that I ended up at the dog park, with my daughter and without my dog? Anya really wanted to go and asked me to take her there. So I did. Our dog is almost sociable with other dogs, but not enough for me to watch her and Anya at the same time.
Next we headed over to the small dog side, where Anya found a Pug she liked. It was a bit shy and kind of lame-in the sense that it just sat there. Really. Right in the middle of a bunch of small yipping running dogs. Found out the new owners had the dog for almost a year and she was turning four soon. The dog had been the property of a 94 year old woman that had died! Who gets a puppy when they're 90?!?! That may explain why it was a bit docile. This is also where I was asked, "So, which dog is yours?"
I posted this photo on Facebook last week. I heard horse winnowing and looked up and Anya was posing like Black Beauty. She's pretty good at mimicking, on many fronts!
On another note...
I often wonder how Anya developed such an amazing command of the
English language so quickly and then I hear myself say things like, “If I hear
one more snot nosed remark come outta that mouth of yours…” Sounds mean, but trust
me that was a well deserved, well controlled response considering the
circumstances. Anyway, I may have something
to so with her vocabulary and choice of expressive phrases.
I'll keep ears open for more expressions, from her.
~Monica
Saturday, March 10, 2012
Matt The Dog goes on vacation.
Anya's teacher told me about her friend that took her child's stuffed animal with her on trips. Hence, here we have the story of "Matt The Dog."
Hello Anya, it's Matt The Dog. I was a bit nervous about getting on the airplane with you mom, but she told me it would be okay.
I got to sit in this seat all by myself, but
your mom wouldn't give me $1 for every 15 minutes I behaved like you
said she would.
We went to lunch in New Jersey, and I had a sip of your mom's Chai Latte-they didn't have hot chocolate.
There was so much lunch for me to eat. The fork was really heavy too.
I am missing you and decided to take a nap after lunch. Because of how the sun shines on different parts of the earth, it is actually 3 hours later here than there.
Hi Anya, it's Matt The Dog. I told you Papa was walking me in the hotel.
It was one of those really long walks he takes and I was sooo tired.
We met this man and his dog at the dog park.
You love German Shepherds, but this one definitely thought he was the boss of me.
Anya, I grabbed the phone in the park to talk to you, but you'd already hung up. I'm sorry.
Anya, I a SO bored from shopping with your mom. Does she ever stop?
Anya, I was reading the menu with Papa at the restaurant tonight. I ordered dog food.
On the train getting ready to eat breakfast with your mom (to go to New York City).
Waiting for the show to start on your mom's birthday.
This is the show we saw!
Can you believe we went to Times Square?!
~Monica
Friday, March 9, 2012
What NOT to Do in NYC
While Anya practice being away from me for a whole 7 days, this is part of what I was up to...
Monday, March 5, 2012
Happy Birthday to ME!!!
Well, here I sit in a lounge chair in a sunny lobby in New Jersey after being
booted out of my hotel room by housekeeping. Life is so tough. I could have
asked them to leave, but that would just be too many days without the bed being
made, so I acquiesced.
Dave is training in helicopter simulators here for over a
week, so since my parents, my boys and Anya’s teacher all felt they could
handle her if I left, I did leave. A real live vacation after 15 straight months
of servitude to the girl. Willing servitude, but draining servitude as well. The second morning I woke up here I still felt like
I’d been hit by a truck. My muscles, my mind and my soul were all really tired.
I am glad to say that I am finally getting energized again.
Tomorrow is my birthday and I concocted a plan to celebrate.
Dave will train most of the day, so I am on a commuter train to Manhattan for a quick
overnight trip with a friend. AND we are going to a Broadway show to see my
favorite stage actress, which I have been wanted to do for about 10 years. We will
see Anything Goes with Sutton Foster and I just found out she is only with the show
for more 5 days after my birthday! I’ve given you the link to my girlfriend’s
blog-it is a hoot to read and she takes tons of great pictures. Hope there is a
really good one she takes of me in NYC. I’ll link to her blog again once she contrives a
story about our trip from her pictures. She is up to see anything in NYC and
her only possible request is to go to a hot dog place she saw on a TV show
once!
This morning I went to the front desk to ask about the
shuttle to the train station. The lady that worked there tried to be nice, but
said, “You mean the one, right there (pointing to the left)?” I said yes. After
all, I am from California,
it is cold in the morning here, I hardly walk anywhere the way city folk do AND
it’s gonna be my birthday. But, she shamed me into walking and I passed it
today on the way to Staples. Okay, so I timed it-a literal 10 minutes. I guess
it will be good for me. I am mostly just annoyed at having to pull my little wheeled
briefcase/suitcase over all the clickity, clackity, rickety, rackety streets. I
need to bring my bag with all my getting-ready-for-a-show-on-your-birthday-stuff.
Maybe I can convince Dave to pick me up in the car the following afternoon…
Anya was pretty good about me leaving. We did a few things
to help and I did one thing that did not help-gotta ease her into being a
Nordquist somehow. First, I asked her to give me a small stuffed animal to
bring with me. I take pictures of it in different places and post them on Facebook,
tagging either my parents or a brother, whichever house she will be at when I
post. She has been wearing a dog tag Dave gave her from when he packed boxes of
gifts for soldiers. So, I gave her a dog
tag that I have from a friend (she’s been eyeing it since she first saw it) and
she decided we should swap them. Each time she started getting nervous about me
never coming back (that is still an issue since her birth mom never came back)
I make her feel the necklace. She KNOWS I’ll come back for my dog tag, since
hers is so very important to her.
I took a direct flight after taking Anya to school and staying
for a bit. Didn’t realize how late I’d get back, nor did I remember that I told
her I’d call her when I got to the hotel. I was wiped out, it was late and I
didn’t think about how important that would be to her. Whoops. Sorry Mom and
Dad. Got a message from my dad the next morning asking me to PLEASE call my
daughter. She was sure something bad had happened to me.
I did apologize multiple times and try to explain time
zones, uh yeah, and then taught her a little about her mom’s motto. “No news is
good news”. I told her that if the plane had crashed, the police would have
come to her and if I were in hospital, Papa would have called. I hated to be
crude (although she does respond well to examples like that), but unfortunately,
I tend not to check in. I am a bad mother to all of my children and bad wife to my
husband. Perhaps this will change my ways. But, I wanted to prepare her anyway
for the inevitable. I have been very faithful to call her at least twice daily
since that initial 43 minute conversation about me being safe and her being
scared.
Maybe one of these times, I’ll post about Matt The Dog and
his adventures in New Jersey and New York.
Here’s to resting and rejuvenating!!!!!!!!!!!!
~Monica
Monday, February 27, 2012
Snow, Snow, Snow…or Not
Earlier in the fall of 2011, we planned a trip to the snow
to visit Dave’s brother’s family at the beginning of the New Year. There was to
be snow for sure and Anya could get some of what she misses so much. Well, if
you are from Southern California, you know
there was no snow. There was a tube run made from fire hoses shooting out near
a fan a night when it was cold, so we had a bit of snow to play in.
Our oldest daughter came down to visit us in January and
decided to join us on our trip up to the Sierra Nevada’s.
Matt’s girlfriend was able to join us too. It was about a seven hour trip when
you add the eating and bathroom stops and Anya did exceptionally well,
especially if you compare it to the same trip one month after she arrived in America. The only problem was on the way home when none of us noticed Anya drink most of her sister's coffee. After the initial buzz and LOUD AND CRAZY caffeine high, she didn't like the way she felt. Make a mental note for future reference.
I purchased (on eBay, at a thrift store and on sale)
three different snow suit sets for Anya. I altered them all and felt kind of weird
with three sets-isn't that a bit obsessive? Even with that little snow, I needed the two sets I brought.
Anya was all over the snow and dirty and wet everywhere. The first thing she did was to take a handful of it
and smear it all over her face. Any time we stood in snow, she was on the
ground, rolling and wiggling in it like very young child would. Regression in
these kids leads to healing and for her first time in snow since she's been here, she
was very regressive and very young. Glad for the chance to heal in the safety of family!!
"Really, Mom?" |
"Better watch out!" |
Nailing Uncle Tom. |
Just love how her hair looks in this one. |
Anya was able to go tubing down a hill and loved it! She
went by herself the first time and then went in trains of people many times
after that. That night we went ice skating. Boy oh boy, was that up her alley.
She hadn’t done it before and they had skates available that had a double blade
on the bottom and straps to hold it on your own shoes.
Help from big brother... |
and from big sister. The two of them skated around like they were in the Olympics, we'll one did more than the other (and that would be the one who actually knows what the Olympics are). |
The easier way to skate. |
Below are actual videos of Anya skating. In the bottom one one she is propelling herself backwards as her cousins skate around her and in the top one, she demonstrates the key to learning how to skate-dancing along with the music.
She was in “the body meets the earth in an organic way”
heaven. She decided it was easier to skate by bending in half and propelling
herself with her hands, even at the risk of possibly losing a few fingers. Her
entire being was covered in the snow dust your find in a skating rink and was,
despite my protests and her cousin’s disgust, delighted with eating the dust. She
kept going and going for ninety minutes; I know it would have been longer if the ring hadn’t closed. We were the last ones off the rink. Hopefully later this spring we get some real weather in the
local mountains so she can have a bit of her Motherland Winter.
Uh, yeah. What I said before. And, I let her do it. |
~Monica
Saturday, February 18, 2012
No matter how smart you get, you could use some kindness there girl.
Anya’s teacher says the change in three weeks in her
understanding of all things school is amazing and all of a sudden it will click
and she will jump ahead. I, however, feel like I will be sitting next to her in
this class until she is 26. I am too close to the trees to see the forest.
There are 70 phonograms that the kids are learning. A
phonogram is basically a letter or group of letters that makes a sound and has
a rule. For instance, “dge” is shown on a flashcard and the kids say, “j (the sound of j), three
letters”. They also take tests where the sound and rule are given and the kids
write the proper phonogram. Obviously I have to learn them too in order to help her. So, the teacher
held up a card and Anya chanted off the three sounds it made. I didn’t know she
knew it nor did I know if she were correct until the teacher gave the answer. She
is learning them faster than I am! She took a test and told me, “I am
remembering in my brain!!”
Anya was melting down at number 17 out of 20 on the test (it
was the first one I had her take alone while I watched) and the teacher pointed
out that during the first three weeks of school for rest of the class, they only
had to learn 10 phonograms and Anya is trying to learn 70 in her first three
weeks. After meeting with the reading teacher for her weekly assessment, she
had done really well and came back in the room saying/singing and dancing to
me, “I’m getting really smart, I’m getting really smart!” Of course that set
her into a bit of regression (changes and advancements she didn’t know she
could do cause that and this one has great possibilities) and the rest of the
day was pretty difficult for her.
Compassion 101 by
Anya
The previous weekend I’d taken Anya for a burger and a
couple in their late 70’s or 80’s were getting out of a booth to leave. I told
her, “Someday Papa and I will be really old like that. Then you can help us walk.”
Pause. She squints one eye a bit.
“No way. Use your stick.”
That’s my girl.
Saturday, February 4, 2012
Guess Who Is Going to School? And Guess Who Else Is Too?
We took a visit to the school Anya will attend three days a
week. She’ll do her seat work at home on Monday and Tuesday. She is beside
herself about the uniforms. Something about the officiality of it all excites
her to the bones. They have little logos on the shirts and she loves it. She is
still concerned a boy will call her “carrots” and she will break a slate over
his head, but other than that, she can’t wait to start. The only thing is
this…Anya is going back to school and I have to as well. I’ll be with her
until she and the teacher can handle the transition. There are already several
kids in the class that are hard to handle with their lack of focusing ability.
First Day of School |
Need a picture with big brother and our backpacks. |
Anya arrived at school very excited. The teacher had asked
for information about Anya before she came to school, so I sent a brief bio
about her, her dwarfism and some photos to be forwarded to the families at
school. So, all the kids knew her when she arrived and many of them were
excited to help her.
She shares a table with another girl, we me in a chair at
the end of the table next to her. In true Russian form, she was seen cleaning up
after her table mate. Pencils were put in the shared pencil bucket by cleaning
maniac Anya. Earlier in the day I decided to sharpen all the pencils in the
bucket to prevent her being fixated on an unsharpened pencil later.
We did a math page together and Anya got 100% and a star on
her page in red. You would have thought the president had awarded her a medal.
Her table mate is getting over the flu that is going around
and has a wicked cough. She was coughing and Anya looked sternly at me, used
her head to point over to the girl and said in anger, “She’s gonna get me
sick!” She already had this illness and doesn’t understand antibodies…that
lesson is for another day.
At recess, Anya had a group of four to five girls following
her around and she had them formed up in a kind of game of hockey at one point.
Luckily there are three recesses each day, PE on Thursdays and playtime before
and after school. She's been rolling in the grass and throwing the sand all over her body. I didn’t think she’d be so sweaty after a full day of school,
but she will definitely getting a shower or bath each night before bed. I used
to be able to get away with every other day.
I am the one who has a problem with being back in school.
Anya might too, but she isn’t showing it yet. It is LOUD in a class room with
16 six to eight year olds from 8:30-3:00. I am used to the level of Anya’s
chatter and she didn’t bother me, but all the other fidgeting and noise wasn’t
what my depleted body and mind could handle. Let’s just say that after lunch
there was a Nordquist lying on pillows in the reading center during story time
and it wasn’t Anya…
I am also on phonics/letter overload. It will be perfect for
her, all the repetition and oral work. I just need to learn the sounds to help
her learn them at home. Right now, I listen to the sounds, write them and then
Anya copies what I wrote.
She only needed to hug me three times during the first day and
only lost her ability to cope the last 10 minutes of the day. I did stop her
from taking a girl’s long hair and from trying to stuff it through a punched
hole in a card and from knocking over the teacher’s water bottle several times.
I also had to hide the drawing of a girl she made (I heard giggling and she
pointed to the two circles on the chest of the girl and said, “Look! She had
breasts!”) On a lighter note, I was invited to a 7 year old boy’s birthday this
weekend. He also asked me, “So. Why did you decide to adopt Anya?”
The day ended with Anya winning a small prize during “magic
trash”. If you clean up an item the teacher has chosen ahead of time, you get a
prize. She wasn’t happy on day two when she didn’t
get a prize.
Day two-we are facing time issues today. Anya can’t keep up
with her writing and processing all the new things and she’ll just have to let
it go. She did some writing and announced, “I’m doing a beautiful job!” The
teacher and I laughed. I told her that eventually Anya will provide her with a
little comic relief throughout the day. This second day, she also is moving
away from me, trying to make the other kids laugh and is only concerned about
recess. Miss Adaptability stands on the tire of the tether-ball set up to hit
the ball or uses a hockey stick. She cracks me up. During PE in the afternoon,
after about 20 minutes of playing a game, Anya came over to me and lay on the grass
with her arms outstretched. She looked up at me and murmured, “I want In-N-Out.”
So, off to class we went to get her a snack, since in this new life, you can’t
just leave for In-N-Out burgers when your body needs some protein.
After school was a trip. I had been telling people for a month or so is that the
only word Anya doesn’t seem to understand is exhausted. Now, she does. She was sure she was close to death. She
has been sleeping for 12 hours and probably would take more. She tried to go to
bed that night at 6pm, I should have let her!
Day three=melt down. “I am not coming to school anymore.”
This was said with her arms crossed. “Uh, yes you are.” She is fluctuating
today between melt down and cooperating. She is eating up a storm and if I keep
feeding her, she does okay. This new life is depleting her coping ability
pretty quickly. Soon we’ll have four days of rest. Well, if you consider your
mother making you instantly memorize half of the math facts and a huge stack of
phonograms for reading as “rest”, then that’s what we get.
~Monica
Thursday, February 2, 2012
The Best Day of Her Life, Ever
Well, we contacted our friend Lehti about riding their pony again. This time, it was Anya's idea and she really wanted to do it. All the other things Anya has experienced over the last 14 months have been thrust upon her. Riding now, after learning about horses and falling in love with them, maybe even more than dogs, is really an Anya thing.
She told me the day before we were to ride all about her expectations for the next day.
"I will walk the Logan, I will ride him, I will jump over the fences..." You can't say the girl doesn't have high goals.
I wanted Anya to experience all the parts of horsemanship and since the pony was being boarded at stables for the time being, we went to Lehti's house to help muck out their four stalls. Let me tell you, this Russian can outwork almost anyone I know. She just goes and goes and goes, especially when it has to do with cleaning.
Anya with their new 3 month old gerbil. |
Aren't the colors in her hair amazing? |
It was so neat to go to the stables after watching so much of The Saddle Club. First we went to see one of their ponies that was there (Casey) and met some lovely horses. Then we took Logan out to the paddock (I think that is what it is called, a fenced off pen for the horses). Next we helped them get Casey get ready for Lehti's daughter to ride. We watched that for awhile and Anya asked Lehti if she could go over to the paddock and give Logan an apple. Sure enough we let go by herself about 300 feet away to the pony and we couldn't even see her. She did it and even fed the apple with a flat hand like Lehti showed her and came back with both hands in tact!!
Look at Anya's delight at being able to carry a saddle!!
"Hello nice horsey." |
"Logan, where are you?" |
Putting Logan into the paddock. |
Bringing Logan over to get tacked up for his rides. |
Washing Casey. |
Casey was tied up to the trailer to dry while we got Logan ready for his rides. Anya was allowed to get Logan out of the paddock, while I stood by. Like I can chase a horse down if it chooses to run from her. Lehti's daughter rode Logan around for exercise and to wear him out a bit for Anya's ride. But, lo and behold, it was Anya's turn. As we were getting ready, before she rode, I was giving An some food and water at the truck. A young lady came by saying, "Excuse me, is this your horse?" She had Casey by the lead and was bringing him back to us. I really didn't know if he was ours or not, I had to ask Anya! Apparently, he saw Logan and escaped to be with him while drying off.
Anya rode really well. It did help that Logan is 9 and is trained so well that he responds to a clicking noise to go. Little Miss Miss held her hands just right and pulled them correctly for stopping and turning. Lehti is a great teacher for her too. She just loves seeing Anya discovering and learning.
We talked with lots of people at the stables and looked at many other horses. Finally it was time to wash Logan, pick up some hay at a feed store and bring Casey home.
What a day, what a day, what a day!
~Monica
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